Self Tests by Psychology Today

Self Disclosure Test 20 questions, 15-20 min	1 2

When you meet a new person (at work or at school), at what point do you typically begin sharing information about the negative or dysfunctional elements of your past, family, or personal life?

	As soon as we are introduced.
	The first time we bump into each other after being introduced.
	During our first private, one-on-one conversation.
	After we have chitchatted a couple of times.
	As soon as I feel s/he is open to exchanging this kind of personal information.
	Only after s/he has revealed that type of information about him/herself.
	Never, I save that type of info for family and close friends.

It is the first anniversary of your beloved grandma's death. You are feeling sad and quite emotional. A woman you have only met once or twice at the office/school notes that you are looking a bit down in the dumps. She asks if there is anything wrong. What would be your response?

	I'd tell her I am fine and move away quickly with my head down.
	I'd tell her I'm having a rough day - that's all.
	I'd tell her that it is the anniversary of my grandmother's death.
	I'd tell her that it is the anniversary of my grandmother's death and proceed to tell her what an amazing woman my grandma was.
	I'd tell her that it is the anniversary of my grandmother's death and proceed to tell her how close we were and how her death tore me apart.

You are in your dentist's chair waiting for the dentist to make an appearance. You are engaging in polite conversation with the dental assistant. What topic are you most likely to talk about? Check all that apply.

	Nothing
	Weather
	Dental hygiene in general
	My dental hygiene
	Sports
	TV shows/movies
	My work
	My vacation plans
	My family
	My life problems
	My emotional issues
	My love life
	My sex life

You have just made a very large and exciting purchase (for example: car, house, computer system, etc). On your way home from signing the final paperwork, you bump into a friend of yours from the local theater group. After greeting him/her where does the conversation go?

	I tell him/her all about my new purchase in explicit detail.
	I mention briefly what I just bought.
	If s/he asks where I've been I'll tell him/her. Otherwise I won't mention it.
	We chitchat a bit, but I keep the big news to myself.

During a meeting with a coworker, s/he makes what you feel is an unsavory comment (a harsh statement about a minority group, politics, spirituality, etc.). You are the only two in the room. How do you deal with his/her comment?

	I clam up; I don't want him/her to know how I feel.
	I clam up; I can't talk rationally to someone with such a closed-minded opinion.
	I shoot him/her a dirty look to show that I don't agree.
	I pretend to be in agreement with his/her view.
	I hold my tongue unless s/he continues pushing my buttons, in which case I tell him/her exactly how I feel.
	I simply state my disagreement and leave it at that.
	I carefully explain how I feel on the issue.
	I call him/her a moron and explain in detail why.

You've been seeing someone you think is great...but s/he is still married (although separated) and has 2 dependant children. Your mom is coming to visit you for a week. Ten minutes after her arrival she has asked for an update on your love life. How would you respond to this question?

	I'd ignore the question (or her).
	I'd smile smugly but give her no information.
	I'd tell her that I don't want to talk about it.
	To get her off my back, I'd tell her there is nothing interesting to report.
	I'd tell her the name of the guy/girl I am dating and provide no other information.
	I'd tell her a bit about our relationship without going into the details of my partner's background.
	I'd tell her a bit about my partner and our relationship without revealing his/her marital situation.
	I'd tell her all about my relationship including the details of his/her marital situation.

You and a close friend are on a weekend camping trip. Your buddy has become increasingly bossy as the weekend progresses and you are getting extremely impatient with his/her attitude. Do you address your feelings to your friend?

	No, I bite my tongue and try to enjoy myself despite my annoyance.
	No, I don't want to create a difficult situation between us.
	No, we don't talk about our feelings.
	Not directly, but I'll make sarcastic comments to insinuate how I am feeling.
	Not directly, but I'll give hints, without being sarcastic, to insinuate how I am feeling.
	Not directly but I give him/her a little bit of his own medicine, hoping he gets the point.
	Yes, I will tell him exactly what is bugging me - as gently as possible.
	Yes, I'll be honest and direct and simply state that his/her behavior is bothering me.
	Yes, I'll tell my friend that we need to discuss the situation. I'll make sure that s/he understands how much I value our friendship, and express my concern about the pattern that has been developing.
	Yes, I'll let him/her have it - no holds barred!

You have just had a blowout on the phone with your sister. Following the ill-fated call, you go to the local grocery store to pick up a few necessities. When the clerk (whom you see on a regular basis) asks how you are, what is your response?

	"Fine thanks and you?"
	"I've had better days."
	"Well, I'd be fine if my sister hadn't called today!"
	Crappy - my sister and I just had a huge fight over the phone.

You are out with a younger cousin who has just moved into town to go the local university. You are very proud of her and are showing her around the campus and city. On the cab ride home the driver asks where you are from and what you were doing in town. How do you respond?

	I pipe up and tell the cabby my cousin's academic success story, SAT scores, and all.
	I explain that I am a local and that this is my cousin who is starting school here this semester.
	I say I am a local and she is new to the city.
	I respond in a vague manner and say we're from around.
	I say, "It's none of your business".

A stranger has asked you to let her/him cut in the line. When you decline, s/he tries to get back at you by ridiculing one of your physical attributes, one that you tend to be self-conscious about. You know very well that s/he is just being mean and totally inappropriate. Still, the comment really hurt your feelings. Do you share the experience with your best friend?

	Yes, I call him/her at work ASAP to recount the traumatic incident.
	Yes, the next time we happen to speak.
	Yes, eventually - after the sting of the comments have lessened, and I am ready to face my insecurities.
	No, I only discuss the fight itself, skipping all the unflattering comments that hit home.
	No, I keep the whole episode to myself; I don't want my friend to hear any negative things about me.