Situation 1
On your way home from work you stop off at the shopping mall to pick up some dinner. As you walk past a restaurant you catch a glimpse of your partner with another woman/man. They are kissing publicly and very passionately. Up until this moment you believed your relationship was stable, loving, and committed - this is your soulmate.
- How do you feel?
I don't feel angry at all.
I feel slightly annoyed.
I feel a little angry.
I feel moderately angry.
I feel very angry.
I feel furious.
- How do you respond? (Check all that apply)
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I approach my partner, keeping my cool, and calmly express my anger. |
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I walk away planning to confront my partner when we are alone. |
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I walk over to my partner and confront him/her in a loud and accusing manner. |
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I walk over and attack my partner and/or his/her companion physically (punch, slap, shove, pull hair, etc). |
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I take out my frustration on an object (kick a tire, slam a door, bang the dash of my car, etc). |
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I go home and destroy my partner's valued belongings. |
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I look away and walk back to the car calmly. I decide not to jump to conclusions and expect my partner to be able to explain the situation. |
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I march out of the mall, jump into my car and peel out of the parking lot. I'd be more likely than usual to speed, cut people off, or honk my horn on my way home. |
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I don't tell my partner I saw them but I sulk and look tortured for days. |
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I treat myself to something indulgent to ease the pain (favorite desert, new outfit, book, CD, etc). |
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I decide to go home and put the situation behind me. I don't want to deal with my partner's infidelity. |
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I continue home and don't worry about it - maybe the relationship wasn't meant to be. |
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I continue on my way home - this is a non-issue for me. |
- How long will this incident preoccupy your thoughts to the point that you are distracted?
